First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage

  • Posted on November 3, 2007 at 8:05 pm

When did you realize that you were with “the one?” This question has been on my mind lately, having just found out that three of my good friends are engaged. (Congrats to Amy, Saiful and Etaf!) I jokingly told Larry that I’m still not sure if I know he’s the one. But the real story is that one morning, a few months into the relationship, we were together and I just had a sudden feeling that I would be with him forever. It wasn’t the first moment I laid eyes on him like a Hollywood perfect romantic comedy. After a few months of being together, I knew that he was different, and he was the one. And only five years later, we were married! We lived together for three years before getting married, so I was pretty sure what I was getting into when I said “I do.”

Saiful and Etaf, newly engaged to each other, have also had a fairly long relationship (although I don’t know exactly how long they’ve been together). I know that they’ve known each other for a long time, and they are so in love and perfect for each other. Etaf is marrying her boyfriend and her best friend.

Amy’s story is the one that got me thinking. She’s been seeing Mark for seven weeks. Larry and I had dinner with them about a month ago, when we met Mark, and Amy told me that they were just getting to know each other, taking things slowly and carefully. After a few weeks of being out of town and incredibly busy at work, I emailed her to see how things were going and I learned that they got engaged this past weekend! I was speechless. I am still in shock, I think. And incredibly happy for Amy, of course. I told her that I feel like I missed a chapter in her life, it happened so quickly.

And while I never thought that Amy would fall so quickly for someone, she said that she just knew. That it feels right. So maybe it doesn’t take years, or even months, to really know. As long as you can be sure that they aren’t a serial killer and they don’t have another wife or two on the side.

To true love and happiness.